See, what a lot of people don’t realise (or want to realise) is that feminism is about improving life for women and men. It’s not about subjugating men. But, see, until traditional gender roles (which underpin most negative attitudes towards women, incidentally) are challenged, no one’s lot can be improved. Here’s an interesting study about the ways in which male gender roles are undesirable too.
(Don’t get me wrong: it unfortunately doesn’t take long before studies on masculinity descend into the “poor menz” diatribe because they can lend themselves easily to that way of thinking. I prefer to use them for the much more important challenging of all gender norms rather than for pouring sympathy into the already [relatively] privileged.) From the LA Times:
Brent Kroeger pores over nasty online comments about stay-at-home dads, wondering if his friends think those things about him. The Rowland Heights father remembers high school classmates laughing when he said he wanted to be a “house husband.” He avoids mentioning it on Facebook.
“I don’t want other men to look at me like less of a man,” Kroeger said.
His fears are tied to a bigger phenomenon: The gender revolution has been lopsided. Even as American society has seen sweeping transformations — expanding roles for women, surging tolerance for homosexuality — popular ideas about masculinity seem to have stagnated.
While women have broken into fields once dominated by men, such as business, medicine and law, men have been slower to pursue nursing, teach preschool, or take jobs as administrative assistants. Census data and surveys show that men remain rare in stereotypically feminine positions.
When it comes to gender progress, said Ronald F. Levant, editor of the journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity, “men are stuck.” [Rest.]