#maleficentmisogyny: the taming of the shrew

Plasticdollheads on Charlotte Proudman, everyday sexism, and online misogyny:

Charlotte Proudman, a barrister and Ph.D researcher, received an inappropriate comment on professional networking website LinkedIn. Whilst most people use sites such as LinkedIn or Research Gate to connect regarding work, a married 57 year old man Carter-Silk decided to use it to comment on 27 year old Charlotte’s looks.

Yes the 57 years of age is relevant, no I’m not ageist (my spouse is considerably older than me). But in the world of work, especially a professional such as law, age means considerably experience, contacts and power.

Giving someone a compliment is not misogynistic. But the context can be. Much like the man in the street who shouts “smile” at women (but never other men… and when do women shout it at males?) to exert power, here we must read the comment in the context of work. Carter-Silk comments on Proudman’s physical appearance, before saying he is always interested in understanding people’s skills and how they might work together. If you genuinely think that is an innocent form of praise, with no under tone, then good luck with life. Would Carter-Silk have sent a man this message? Of course not.

The same as a man saying you look nice in a bar is acceptable, but your boss pulling you into a meeting on potential promotional and commenting on your looks is not acceptable.

See how this works?

It seems the masses don’t. Charlotte has herself to blame apparently, for styling her hair, wearing make-up and having a professional photograph taken. Bear in mind if Charlotte’s picture looked like she had been dragged through a hedge, she would be deemed unprofessional and sloppy. Women can’t win. Wear ‘too much’ make up and you’re an attention-seeking slapper, wearing none? You’ve let yourself go and you’re a lazy mess. Charlotte is now being called a shrew, ugly, a stupid slag, an attention-seeker, plumpy, frumpy, a bowl-head etc etc with men sending sexually explicit messages and threatening ones. She should be ‘grateful’ for the attention.

Source and rest: The Taming of the Shrew (plasticdollheads)

(Excerpt etc. first posted on feimineach.com. Orig. attribution above.)

today in misogyny: the taming of the shrew