“Yes, you can turn me on, but don’t expect me to respect you. Yes, I might find you attractive on the outside, but that won’t make me think of you as attractive on the inside. Sure you might get my attention, but it will be negative attention. Men are easily stimulated visually. It doesn’t take rocket science to figure that out. But this leads to lust – not love. Love is a commitment. In order to get a commitment from a guy, he needs to perceive you as respectable and of immeasurable worth. Flaunting your body communicates that you don’t have a lot of self-worth. God made women and by flaunting their bodies, they are insulting the creator and cheapening his invaluable creation.”
The background according to the website: “The Modesty Survey is an exciting, anonymous discussion between Christian guys and girls who care about modesty. Hundreds of Christian girls contributed to the 148-question survey and over 1,600 Christian guys submitted 150,000+ answers, including 25,000 text responses, over a 20-day period in January 2007.”
1,600 young men participating voluntarily in a survey has to be some kind of world record. Limited to Christians or not, I have to believe that the sky-high participation must mean the topic is one of some importance to young men as a whole.
The survey itself is fairly intensive, and consists of ten categories. Nine of the categories are seeded with statements that respondents either agreed with or didn’t. For example, 38.6 percent of male respondents “strongly” agreed with the statement, “You have less respect for an immodest girl than for a modest one.” 66.9 percent of male respondents strongly agreed that “ Guys notice whether a girl dresses modestly or not.”
59.3% strongly agreed with the statement, “Bikini swimsuits are immodest.” One older male commenter stated, “If you don’t understand this, you need to start at square one. The more skin that is revealed, the more of a stumbling block. You can’t reveal more skin than with a bikini. If you understood the purpose of publications like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue, or the objectification of swimsuit and lingerie models, you wouldn’t want to wear a bikini — unless you actually want men to sin as they look at you.” [Rest.]