On Men Who Think Street Harassment Would Be Awesome
Whenever women are discussing street harassment and what causes it and how to prevent it, a man inevitably comes along to inform us that, actually, our feelings about harassment are wrong because he, personally, would just love it if women catcalled him on the street or came up and slapped his ass without consent.
There are lots of things wrong here.
1. This is male privilege.
It’s a perfect example of it, in fact. Having privilege isn’t a “bad” thing, and it doesn’t mean you should have to lose that privilege–rather, it means the rest of society should gain it. In this case, that privilege is being able to walk down the street without being subjected to sexualized attention, and that privilege is one men have and women do not, in our society. (Of course, men are more likely than women to face other kinds of unwanted attention on the streets, but that’s not what we’re talking about here.)
When you say that you would “love” it if women catcalled you, you are speaking from a place of privilege because catcalling isn’t something you ever have to deal with. The only reason you are even able to imagine enjoying it because you’ve never experienced it.
Some men do experience sexual harassment from women or other men. But these generally aren’t the men butting into our conversations and telling us that we should take harassment as a compliment, because they understand what it’s actually like.
[Much more on inourwordsblog]
- Two women minding their own business, and street harassment (afeimineach.wordpress.com)
- On Men Who Think Street Harassment Would Be Awesome (brutereason.net)
- [link] Perpetrators of street harassment… misogynistic or just uneducated? (afeimineach.wordpress.com)
- [link] Hollaback London: If someone wolf whistles at you or grabs you in the street, would you confront them? (afeimineach.wordpress.com)
- [link] Let women stand up to harassment from squids on the street (afeimineach.wordpress.com)
- Speaking out against street harassment. (cnn.com)
- Activist probes street harassment of Indian women (rapidcityjournal.com)
- Why Catcalls Feel Threatening (emmiemears.com)
- Rebel With A Cause: Stop harassment: It’s not sex, it’s oppression! (azzasedky.typepad.com)
- Standing Up to Street Harassment (gwblogabroad.wordpress.com)