NO SEX PLEASE; WE’RE BRITISH. AND WE’RE CALLED DAVE.

Research: Sexualisation of little girls linked with negative body image

Below is an excellent and interesting critique of the recent announcement by Dave (Cameron) et al that said that we need to halt the over-sexualisation of our young girls. Dave et al are backing several proposals (from a Christian organisation, it’s worth noting) that aim to protect children from sexual imagery (e.g., by selling top shelf magazines in brown sleeves). In predictable Tory fashion, Dave said that such change is about “social responsibility, not state control”. The conservatives are always keen to giveth autonomy with one hand and to very quickly taketh it away with the other. Whether it’s their plan or not, any measures introduced to combat over-sexualisation of young people will, inevitably, result in greater state control. But that’s an aside (for now).

Now, don’t get me wrong – over-sexualisation of young girls is a very serious issue and is unavoidably an aspect of our patriarchal objectification and sexualisation of women, and the impossible centrality of their physical appearance (they must be attractive but not too attractive because that’s inaccessible, they must be thin but not too thin because that’s emaciated, they must be curvy but not too curvy because that’s slutty and/ or fat, they must be lightly dressed but not too lightly dressed because that’s also slutty, etc. etc.) In short, they must be perfect but not too perfect  because then they’d never bang you. These norms are communicated to our young people everywhere they look, alongside the image of women as (available and willing) sex objects. So, should we do something about all of this? Yes, we absolutely should. Though we should be honest about it. If it’s about addressing the issue of pervasive sexual imagery and messages, that’s one thing; if it’s a cover for something else entirely, though, then we have a whole new problem. Laura Woodhouse from the f-word unpicks what is really going on with this conservative policy.

… the real problem with thongs and padded bras being marketed at young girls and pop culture being defined by women writhing around half naked is that it encourages children and teenagers to have sex.

For these right-wing, often conservative Christian types, the commercialised vision of sex being thrust in kids’ faces is dangerous because their view of “normal” has no place for anything other than sex between one man and one woman, bound together for life, who are willing to accept the tiny wee bundle of a consequence that may result. Sex for pleasure, sex outside relationships, sex that results in abortion – any sexual activity that deviates from their norm – is a sinful, threatening act that tears another rip in the moral fabric of a fading social order they are doing their darnedest to resurrect. This kind of sex is dark and dirty, while children are pure and innocent. By bringing the sinful world of sex into childhood, we defile our children.

So is it about saving our children’s innocence, protecting them from the horrid world of the patriarchy, and teaching them that they don’t have to subscribe to these messages? Or is it just that the right-wingers don’t want anyone (apart from a happily married man and woman) having sex? I’m inclining towards Woodhouse’s argument. Nadine Dorries, for example, is notoriously anti-abortion. By and large, if I may generalise, anti-abortionists are also anti-non-marital, non-procreative, sex-for-the-hell-of-it sex. But here’s the rub: sex is “normal”, teenage sex is “normal”, teenagers are horny little rascals, teenagers are walking frickin’ sexers. Teens have been having sex for as long as anyone’s been having sex. Teenagers living in a vacuum would still have sex.

Yes, girls need to know that they don’t have to be anything for anyone, that they don’t have to do anything for anyone, that the messages they see every day present a patriarchal view to which they do not have to subscribe, but if Dave’s new bandwagon is about preventing sex and little else, then the conservatives are once again barking up the wrong tree.

  • Two thoughts from this excellent piece of thinking:
    1. but if Dave’s new bandwagon is about preventing sex and little else, then the conservatives are once again barking up the wrong tree. The significant majority of what comes out of Dave’s mouth is ultra right-wing agenda. He does a good job of hiding it, but the motivations behind many of the kites he flies are dangerously extreme.

    2. I’m with HF on avoiding sexualisation of children is a parental job. Unfortunately, however, many parents have never read the job description, and are incapable of fulfilling the requirements.

    • And I missed this one too. I thought I was all caught up but obviously not.

      Re. extremity: I think he’s only just getting started, you know.

  • I’m going to pander to my inner parent for a moment and say why don’t their parents not buy then clothing that they, as parents, consider inappropriate of their age? I’ve bought clothes for my children* and my first priority, again as a parent, is that they aren’t going to wear out before they’ve had a good run (purchases must be cost effective). This is closely followed by considerations of initial cost and comfort. Fashion is waaaaaayy down the list.

    Dave, who is a cock, should tell this religious group to do one and stop butting in on other people’s private business. Except he won’t do that because he is a cock and he likes to appear to be a moral beacon in a sea of slime and he like to pander to the god botherers. In the UK regular church attendance is down to 15% of the population. That they are offended is irrelevant. As the saying goes nobody has the right to not be offended.

    Dave’s silly attempt to protect children from reality by putting magazines in a brown paper bag is as wasteful as it is ineffectual. If he thought that it was a serious issue then he could enact a law that prevented the publication of these images. I’m sure red top tabloid readers would love that and I’m sure that Dave knows to keep them happy with beer and pictures of boobs.

    In my view what we really want is a culture that is a bit less superficial and cares less for body shape and appearance and more for issues that are important liek equality, poveryty and what those corrupt con-men in Parliament are spending our money on.

    *Sadly I am no longer permitted to buy them clothes as they are old enough to buy their own. That’s right, despite not having jobs of their own and being too young to earn money to pay for their own clothes, they are still capable of buying their own. I assume that they do this by stealing or draining money by osmosis from my bank account.